If you genuinely want him to change and be the man you need, perhaps he actually needs the space to grow emotionally and mentality still, which might have been limited while he was around you. It's may not be your fault, because not every relationship is compatible in the sense that they compliment each other in growth at particular stages of life. In your case the transition from high school to adulthood is a big one, and relationships that overlap into that phase tend to face certain obstacles because people mature at different speeds.
However, it's not to say that he will never fall for you again some time in the future, but you might have to give each other some time and space apart first. Or do I just give it time and hope for the best and wait. My ex broke up with me about a month ago. He said he no longer felt the same and he had got a new girlfriend within 3 days of him splitting up with me. I'm unsure if she is a rebound because they were talking while we were still together.
We have a 2 year old son together. He was my first love and i thought we would be together forever. We were together for 5 years before the break up. I honestly cant afford the ex back permanently program so any help or advice would be great. It would really depend on how the relationship was like towards the end - whether there were a lot of fights, if he showed concern or didn't seem to care, loss of attraction, etc.
If you were together for 5 years and even share a 2-year old son, it's likely that the relationship was a meaningful one, just that at some point during the relationship, things had changed. In most cases, it tends to come from the lack of excitement or passion after being together for so long, and one party gets bored. There's a good possibility that his new girlfriend is a rebound because she comes across as a new experience for him, and a change of pace from the last 5 years of being with the same person.
If you want him back, the best thing you can do right now is to pick yourself up, and figure all these issues out with the relationship and work on them on your own part at least. Give him space to actually feel the emotional gap of being with someone that isn't you, and if it really is a rebound, his relationship with the new girl probably won't last very long. I broke up with my ex boyfriend 4 months ago, and those past for months have been incredibly tough for me. I broke up with him because school and work got in the way and we no longer had enough time for each other.
We started out as friends, so you can imagine how it felt for me to lose him. I did the no contact rule and only talked to him when he approached me, which was rare and still is. We go to the same school and we pass each other in the hallway all the time, but we turn our heads the other way. At first, I had hope that things would turn out alright, because we'd talk occasionally and things weren't too bad. But recently, I found out that he's dating another girl. And ever since them, he stopped contacting me. I can't tell him that I still love him because that will hurt me, and it's just wrong.
I'm scared to even talk to him because I'm afraid that he'll see it as me trying to get back together with him. For now, I just want to be friends. Under these circumstances, if he only recently got together with someone new and this new knowledge has been hurting you a great deal, it just means that you haven't picked yourself up from the break up. I suggest that before you even think about being friends with him, that you need to find ways to first recover from the pain and not let yourself be so emotionally affected by things.
If you still want to be with him down the road, you'll need to show him you're doing well, and make him think of you again. How do I show him that I'm doing well and make him think of me? I don't even know how to approach him At the moment, if he's dating someone else, there isn't much you can do about the situation considering that you were the one who initiated the break up. Hopefully this relationship he is in is merely a rebound, and it won't last. Wait for an opportunity if you really want him back.
In the mean time, you could always start to make your presence known social media , and continue to work on improving aspects of your life and being less emotionally invested in him as ironic as that sounds. I have a class with him Would saying hi be appropriate? I fear that the more time passes of no contact, the harder it will become for us to reconnect.
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What kind of opportunity am I waiting for? An opportunity would probably him breaking up with the person he's dating now. It would be hard to reconnect at the moment regardless because he's with someone else, and would probably be guarded against you. My boyfriend broke up with me around a month ago after a 9-month relationship.
I have been overseas for 4 of those months, though. Once I was in no contact with him, he sent me messages asking why I was ignoring him and when he could have our friendship back. Has he really moved on, though? The girl resembles me and is part of why we broke up since I felt that he was developing feelings for her. He said that he was attracted, but that there was no emotional connection.
He asked me if I had been with anyone. We were well-matched and saw a future together, but he missed my physical presence with the long distance relationship. He also felt that the distance was putting too much strain on the relationship since we were arguing all the time. It seems like the case where he still cares for you, but the long distance does put a strain on how he views things, and the new girl he has been focusing on seems like his way of coping with the relationship gap in his life since you have been overseas.
I don't think he's fully moved on, and if you still want to give it a shot or re-connect with him when you are back, feel free to do so, but take things a step at a time. Me and my ex-boyfriend, both around our early 30's, broke up almost 3 years ago. We were together for several months. I left him because of what I thought was inevitable to do so part of them being visa problem, since we met in overseas, and another part was his intense jealously. After the break up, he sent me messages from time to time, like in every 5 or 6 months - of which none of them I felt that they were desperate but instead simply asking me how I was doing and that he hope to keep in touch with me as a friend if I feel the same.
It took me 2 years to finally stop dwelling on the past and send him a reply. After that, we slowly started to get back in touch, and as we did, I have started to feel that I may have made the wrong decision to have left him back then. I have made the choice of calling him. The conversation basically got to a point of me asking him for a second chance, and that was when he told me he won't be a ble to see me as more than a friend because he's seeing someone else for a while now. At the end of our conversation, I managed to get myself somehow back in track, but I do know it was not my best performance.
I understand that he has completely moved on, probably a long time ago, and assuming from the way he have explained to me, I feel he is investing to his new relationship. Our conversation left us with a question of whether I would like us to keep in touch as a friend. I told him I probably will not be able to do that, though I would like to.
He understood and respected my feelings and he told me he will not contact me if that's what I wish. I understand his situation, more that it is the consequences of what I have done 3 years ago and I am aware that I do not have a right to get in his way of happiness that he had finally found. I guess there's nothing really I can do at this point, so my only hope left now, is to secretly hope that the situation changes and, knowing that I still have feelings for him, maybe he will contact me again then.
So, as for time being, while I will try to focus on bringing positive changes in my life, which one seems to have more chance to the possibility of getting back with him even the chances are very low , whether I keep out of contact with him, or back to get in touch with him as a friend. The reason why I have declined his offer to be friends was, of course, because I know it will hurt to talk to him knowing he's with someone else, but if it will give him a positive effect at any rate in a long run, I would like to give it a try.
I feel that getting in touch with him as a friend for now would be the better choice, if you are able to do so, because 3 years was a long time ago, and if he's already moved on since, you'll need to create a new bond with him in order to have a shot at him falling for you again in the future. So I dated my ex for one year and we're together for 3 years. It was Rocky because I admit to having trust issues. We broke up and had no contact for about 2 months. Then became friends that eventually started sleeping over again.
We were friends no arguing with all the couple things like hanging out running errands and shopping. I got injured and was bed rest for 6 weeks, he visited me and surprised me. Next thing two weeks later he has a f2f. It didn't hurt surprisingly I was okay with him moving on. Then not hanging out with him anymore I've realized I'm not okay with it and I do want to be with him.
So he's been in this relationship for about one month now. But we still text and I will admit to sending revealing photos because he's asked for them. And I've told him I do wish to be with him and would do anything, he says it's too late but how late is it if I'm not the one that always texts him "good morning" or that he asks for pictures and does mention the next time I see him. I don't want it to be too late and I do want to be with him. What should I do next? It would seem like he definitely still has feelings for you, but after 3 years being together might want to explore his 'options'.
However, because you were together for 3 years, he is used to the idea of continuing to talk to you and is comfortable with it. If you want him back, I suggest actually going into No Contact because it seems that in the current situation, you haven't given him the space to actually process the breakup and start to miss you, which is why he is adamant about not wanting to get back together. I'm scared that if I give him space he'll focus on this gf and won't miss me and then it will be too late.
I have not spoken to him in a couple days but it is killing me inside. Continuing to talk to him would definitely still keep him around, but are you sure you want to remain in this cycle where he knows that he is able to do whatever he wants, because you currently need him more than he does. I've started to back off and not try to pursue him anymore. But what do I say or do when he does text me? I feel a bit weird but I like the attention, he only texts me when he's not around his girl friend. Do I think anything of it and maybe just wait for things to fall into place or is it nothing to think about and just let it fade?
At the end of the day, you'll have to figure out what it is you want. Not pursuing him or cutting contact with him may hurt now, while continuing to let yourself develop stronger emotions for him while he is still attached would only hurt you later on. It's normal to enjoy the attention because it makes you feel important that he would be willing to go behind his girlfriend's back to text you.
However, just remember that if he is capable of doing that now, there's a risk of it happening in the future if the two of you were to work something out. So my ex boyfriend and I dated for 4 years, first love, inseparable and very close with his family. When I went away to college I was confused and feeling unsure because I felt like I needed to be single and experience life without him.
I broke up with him and was fine, I tried not to think about it at all and started talking to a new guy. My ex was very heartbroken and we almost got back together a few times but I was stupid and chose the new guy. I regret that decision so much and want my ex back more than anything and wish I could go back and change my mind, and really have been down lately because I miss him so much.
You should not contact him at this point since he's dating someone new and he may not take you seriously. Give it some time and move on with your life for now. If at a later date things don't work out with him and his date, you could initiate contact again with him if you're still keen.
Kevin, I want my ex back permanently. We started seeing each other. It got was just beginning to get serious. I met his oldest child. He told his mother about me. I told my mother about him. Then, suddenly he was contacted by his ex. She professed all her feelings she still had for him. He told me about it all and said he was confused.
However, I have been his only relationship since their separation. We had been together for 4 months. I dedcidely told him if he was confused, he should try to work things out as reuniting a marriage, and considering they have a 4 year old son together, would be a priority This may sound crazy, but closure is necessary when ending a marriage and I feel he deserves to figure that out without my influence since he has any doubt at all. Therefore I am in no contact at day 6 now. I truly feel I did the honorable, self-respectful choice. These are my feelings and I have to feel them and heal through this alone.
But here is my question. If she is doing this through only jealousy, what would be the natural progression of what's going to happen? I will not communicate throughout this process but I would like to know what are the chances of it ending permanently between them? I'm in no hurry, because I know he has a lot of feelings to discern even if it doesn't work between them. But I still would like to hear your perspective so I'm not completely clueless.
I have never been in this situation or rather never had to remove my own self in honor of the circumstances. If his ex is only doing this out of jealousy, it is most likely that whatever caused the divorce to happen in the first place would repeat itself since her actions were not made in a calculated and logical manner but rather, in an emotional desperate attempt which may work because of the closure they need, but would not last long term. I did 45 days no contact, my ex texted me the whole time during no contact. I broke up with him and told him not to contact me anymore After I finally agreed to meet him for coffee he kept asking I did and I found out through social media he got a new girlfriend.
But I want him back now. I've hung out with him 5 times but made the mistake of sleeping with him. What is the best thing to do now? Do I go back to being friends and how long do I wait to tell him he has to choose between her and I? Shouldn't that be more than like 2 months and not just after a few times of hanging out? Right now if he's gotten together with a new girl and still wants to sleep with you and pesters you to meet up, there is a likelihood that he may trying to play you out. Take caution of that, and consider that making him choose between her and you might actually leave you devastated if the answer isn't what you want.
Thanks for the reply. What do you mean by play me out? I will definitely keep my radar up for that. Do I wait more until we're closer friends, do I wait until he says something? I'm not sure when to give up on getting him back and moving on or when to keep trying. What I mean by playing you out is that he may be sleeping with you because it's easy and the moment he gets bored, he might just decide to stop or walk away.
I would suggest waiting it out until at least you're in a slightly more advantageous position for him to actually make a choice. Currently if you make him choose, there may be a chance he goes with her because she is still novel and brings something new into his life. I will make sure not to give into sleeping with him while I wait it out. Is a month or two good enough time or longer? Also how would I bring up the conversation of making him choose. Hi Kevin, my ex of 3 years and I have been broken up almost 3 months.
He is with another girl as far as I know. I have had no contact for this entire time. I am getting ready to say something but I am absolutely terrified! I have had 20 major surgeries from age 2 - 13 and this terrifies me.. Our relationship did not end well and he ended it. But my heart wants what it wants. Please help me come to a decision to either let sleeping dogs lie or live a little and the worst risk is the one not taken..
My suggestion would actually to not contact him right now because he is currently with someone else and you don't want to come across as the third party. Also he may not take you seriously since he may be in a happy relationship or not but you don't know for sure and considering that the relationship did not end well. Wait it out a little longer for an opportunity before texting him. Hi, I'm 26, and he is 27 years old. We were together for 9 months and I meet his friends and family. Reason for breaking up was that he doesn't have time for me, that he isn't sure what he wants, maybe it's other girls, but he has everything he wants with me, so he needs time to think.
But I think that he has someone else now. Few days after the break up he sent me a message that he is thinking of me every day, and i replyed to him after an hour that i'm glad that it's like that. I know where i was making mistake in our relationship, i was always there and available for him, almost like i didn't have my own life.
Now I don't know how to repair mistake and how to get him back? Well, you have to show him that you're capable of living without him and perhaps that was the problem. By forever being available and there for your partner, it's easy for your partner to take advantage of that and take you for granted in the process because it becomes a boring relationship to him. I suggest focusing on your own life for now remember before you guys got together, you were living life perfectly fine without him , and pick yourself up from where you left off back then.
My ex and i broke up 3 weeks ago. He post feelings for me and he is in love with his ex. I still Miss him and i want to get back with him. Do i still have a chance with him? I think it would be better to let him get over his ex before you take another shot or consider anything since he may start projecting his feelings towards his ex on you and it isn't fair to you. It can be anywhere between immediately to 10 days.
If they don't respond within 10 days, it's safe to assume, they won't. He cheated on me when we were together and I mentally lost it always feared losing him and he always threatened to leave me when I got emotional and insecure. Very jealous of all that I see from the window looking in. Why everyone behaves the way they do. Playing my role as best as I can to win him back for a long time. I never learned how long a pregnant rebound could last. Or how long a man can use a woman until he gets bored. So far almost a year because of her being prego I think. Will this baby cause a break up?
Will she learn she deserves better than him? Regret her obsession over him? Or will a user of people and obsessive person of people last? She basically asked for him to look at her like a desire to be used. He did at first use her and she cut him off when she found she was prego. Her back story is as follows: They end up together and she tells him the story and gives him the jewelry for the close holiday.
How did she know he was single? Lied about not being able to have kids? Idk but it seems she planned this. You said he cheated on you, destroyed your self esteem, and he uses people. Why do you want to get him back? If your answer is "Because I love him", then I want you to do no contact for at least 3 months before attempting to contact him. My ex and I became official 3 months after his first relationship of 2 months; he was dumped ended. We were together for 8 months. Here, I wished him well and stopped the messages. What should my mentality be?
I probably have some kind of answer. But what bothers me is that whenever I wake up I still think of my ex, knowing that he has a new girlfriend instead of choosing to experience and learn about love together with me. It's normal to feel this way especially if you haven't really dedicated yourself to moving on yet. Like you say, you're not his counselor so it may a better idea instead to focus on yourself. In an indirect sense, he's started to move on already so you shouldn't keep yourself in the past either.
I was in a FWB relationship for 2 years, we had moments of talking about taking it further, we never completely acted on it, 6 months ago he messaged me he had found someone, he calls his GF, however, he still regularly messages me, we have had sex 2 times and dinner a few times, while he has been with his GF, and we tell each other we love each other, how ever, he still stays with her I do not know if their is a recovery chance with him or not I am confused, in love with him, and recognize my situation is not normal, I need a more adaptive program for my situation Firstly, you should be cutting off the FWB status with him since you know he has a girlfriend, and that makes you the 'third wheel' even if you do love him and have been with him longer.
This creates the wrong mentality for him as he may not think of you as someone he would call his girlfriend since its been 2 years and things never progressed from FWB since but someone he met for a shorter period could become his girlfriend. I suggest creating some distance for your own sake and figure out if you want a relationship with him, or a FWB situation. I love my ex so much but he has a girlfriend. He sometimes come to my place and ask to make love which I always say no.
Recently I ask him to come back to me and he only told me that we both have moved on and I will only be his friend. I can't stabilise in any relationship because he is always in my heart and mind. I feel that he is only one my heart belongs to and hurts so much seeing him far from me. It would be fair to yourself to at least spend time recovering and moving on since he already has a girlfriend. Even if you want to get back together with him in the future, at least work on your emotional state right now before trying anything.
Okay so I have a situation myself that made me end up here.. Me and my ex always had little bumps in the road and whatnots but everything changed when we found out I was pregnant.. He was still very iffy about what he wanted to do. I took pretty much any chance to talk to to give about it but I still never really understood anything. Until last night when we actually stood face to face. From there I offered him my phone.. So I asked him if he had a girlfriend if he was dating someone.
He kept saying no and no. And I asked him not to lie to me. I was like okay so he told me and I asked to see the messages and he did Immediately his face completely changed. I asked if he wanted to come to my ultrasound next week and he said yes but he was just acting really really awkward. So I broke and asked him about the girl from work. He told me that he would talk to her today.. I looked at him and he just told me that she was asleep last night.. For starters, I'm sorry to hear that you have to go through such a devastating situation. You deserve every bit of attention you need right now.
However, it's best not to overthink things and if he says he will talk to her, perhaps let him be for now and see how it goes? You've enough on your plate without having to second guess every action or inaction that takes place. Thank you for telling me this. It calms me down a bit. But something happened last night. When again he keeps telling me he loves me. And as soon as he came home everything just felt right.. And it just made me lose all hope. Then when we woke up he wanted me to stay there and wait for him to come home.. That's awfully strong of you to make the decision.
I would have suggested the same thing. It's not healthy for you or the baby to go through this, even though it feels 'right' if you're constantly hurt in the process. Like I said before, you deserve every bit of attention but more importantly than that, you deserve to be happy. Since he has not stopped talking to her, it would be better if you not linger around with potentially false hope and end up hurt, over and over again.
I don't know what to do. I have been with this guy for 5 years and I just recently found out that he was cheating on me. He told me that there is still a chance that we can get back together or be good friends. But I really love him. I thought him cheating would make me hate him but I feel really lost.. I know it takes time and I know about the no contact rule. But I'm so afraid that he will never be with me again When he says he still thinks there's a chance you guys can get back together, I hope he means it without the third party?
Before you consider anything more, you have to be considerate to yourself and respect yourself. Would you want to continue and be fine with your boyfriend having a third wheel? There is this boy that I have been with for a year. We loved each other a lot but then some stuff happened and he broke up with me. A week or 2 later he's with this girl that he says he loves. Though he told me not to tell her that he still loves me. In the end, he wants to stay with her even though he really loves me.
I'm always around him and she lives like 2 hours away so he spends more time and texts me more than her. I tried telling him that I think he's confused but he won't listen. What should I do to let him know that I love him and that he should just stop and come back? Perhaps he's going through a rebound with her? In that case, I suggest applying the no contact rule to let him figure that out by himself. You shouldn't interfere with a rebound as he might resent you for it and think you're trying to manipulate him.
If he still loves you, he will come back eventually. I have been dating this guy for 3 years. Then about four months ago I started suspecting he was cheating on me with some girl he met in a whatsapp group we share. When I kept confronting him about his flirting with her, he denied it, till he eventually dumped me two weeks ago, saying he doesn't have feelings with me anymore. It's clear he is dating her, am not being paranoid.
I have not texted him since the breakup, which was through a chat. Do you think there is a chance it could be serious? Did I lose him a long time ago and should just move on? Speculation may not give you any closure or information. If you guys have been dating for 3 years, it's highly likely that he truly loved you but something may have happened along the way. Firstly, give yourself some space and adopt the no contact rule. At the end of it, if you still feel that you want him back, I suggest you have an honest conversation with him about it.
Hi kevin im in a terrible situation and im so confused my bf and i of 7yrs and we also share a three year old. He tells me he will always love me but he is still with this other woman. After 3 months and he is still with her i made the poor decision of telling him i moved on with someone. How can i still fix us getting back together should i continue on with the lie and make him jealous until he wants me back? Tell him that you lied to make him jealous and that you need some time and space to heal from the breakup.
After that, start no contact. Don't reply to his texts or email no matter how much he contacts you. Hi, My boyfriend and I were together for a year and 9 months, it was both of our first relationship and it was pretty serious and we were contemplating moving in together. In december I made a male friend who really bothered him and he was intensely jealous of this friendship and started acting out and being very mean towards me reading my messages, saying rude things ect. As time went on my friend and I got closer and closer because I was opening up about the emotional issues I was having in my relationship.
My ex boyfriend broke up with me in march saying that I emotionally cheated on him I don't disagree and we continued talking about potentially being together until April when we went no contact and he moved on with someone else. In May I saw him and things went well, he was affectionate and listened to me; but he was very conflicting and told me things like "I hope you find what you're looking for" and then things like "I truly don't want you to give up on me.
Him and that girl are together now and I'm also seeing someone but my ex and I are talking again and have been for about a week. I want him back but I have no idea what to do because his texts are so dry and seemingly like he doesn't care and has actually moved on. I do know he stalks my social media everyday though and finally just deleted our pictures off of instagram and facebook.
I should also mention we're two hours away from each other currently so seeing him is not the easiest. The only way to get him back is be patient.
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I recommend you stop contacting him until he contacts you first. And if you are not in love with the guy you are seeing, breakup with him. You will not get what you want unless you start saying no to the things you don't want. Kevin please help me. Me and my ex were together 7 years. We broke up in October last year because I cheated. In february I began dating someone new and he made attempts to get back with me but I was talking to my new lover. The week before my birthday he brung flowers to my job and brought me a Mother's Day gift.
We did sleep together after that we didn't really talk much. I just found he is seeing someone he says she's a friend but I'm not so sure. I miss him a lot and want him back but don't want to hurt my new lovers heart and apparently my ex and his new friend started talking. He is off Monday and we Are supposed to meet up concerning our son but I'm nervous. I am literally crying because I'm torn what do I do? Are you sure you want him back? Or are you just scared of losing him forever because he is speaking to someone else.
You probably hurt him terribly after a seven years relationship and he has finally healed a little bit and is starting to pick up the pieces of his life. Please do not give him hopes of getting back together only to realize later on that you don't want him back. Take some time out and truly think about what you want. Get therapy if you are confused. I understand you are hurt but at one point of time you chose to cheat on him and leave him.
There is a good chance you made that decision because you did not want that relationship. Nothing much has changed and if you go back, you might end up in the same relationship and the same boyfriend you cheated on. Do you truly want that? Or are you just feeling hurt because you are just realizing that your ex can move on as well?
Grief is painful, but if you choose to not pursue him, you will heal and feel better. But if you give him hope and shatter it again, you will hurt him again and it will be cruel. My fiance of 8 years broke up with me and immediately started dating his coworker. He ended up moving in with her. We have been broken up now for almost 2 months. I did all the wrong things at first like begging him back. That pushed him further away. I started making as little contact as possible with us having 4 kids together. This past monday he come over and he started making passes at me. Then, he gave me a very deep hug, if that makes sense.
If felt like he cared followed by a "friendly" kiss as he called it. He said we have been best friends for 8 years and wants to continue being friends. Tues, I had no contact with him. Wed, he started making sexual passes again. Later that night he called me to tell me his new girlfriend of 1 month and him got engaged. They both felt like it was the respectful thing to do for me to hear it from them.
Thurs came, with more sexual passes. Friday, i made a huge mistake and met up with him. We ended up having sex. I know it was wrong and im not gonna do it anymore. Im gonna tell him tomorrow. What does this mean and do you think i still have a chance to get him back. You do have a chance. But you need to do no contact.
His new relationship definitely looks like a rebound and will end soon. But if you keep being available to him, he will never realize how much he loves you and will never go through the grief. If you have to meet him because of the kids, keep your distance and don't speak to him. If he tries to speak or make passes, just tell him to stop and tell him you need some space and time. Be stern and strong. This is the only way to get him back.
Its been a few weeks since I posted this and I just now seen it. I had it in my head that I'd talk to him and I did and we both agreed not to do anything anymore. It wasn't just a few days of me having limited contact that he started doing it again. I'm ashamed to say I give in. We broke up once before and were fwb and got back together. I guess I was hoping for the same outcome.
I am ashamed of myself and absolutely not doing it anymore. I'm gonna start the limited contact and keep it that way. I do have a question. Why is it that he asks me quite often if I'm talking or seeing anyone but yet has told me that I need to find somebody who makes me happy?
Hi, I was dating my ex for 3 years in which we had lots of ups and downs. Towards the end, I was not attracted to him and also felt he was prioritising work and family, so broke it off.
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He tried after our break up to get back but I was hurting. After a year, we got back in touch and planned a friend holiday and he started casual dating. I didn't expect it but that is making me question whether I have feelings as we have a great time together. Can u guide how to know if I'm over it or if I should try get back. We discussed it but he felt he was too hurt but still feels I'm his best friend. Just tell him that you are confused about how you feel and take things slow.
If after months of dating, you don't feel attracted to him and are still unsure, then talk about getting back together.
I was dumped almost two weeks ago by the first girl I ever fell in love with. I was the first boy she ever fell in love with, too. We moved out of home together and had lived together for three years. One week after she broke up with me I found out that she was already starting a new relationship. We were still living comfortably in the same house until then. I became extremely distraught and desperate. I fled home and in the next few days sent her many desperate texts and messages and cried in her presence twice while trying to be mature.
She dumped me because I emotionally cheated on her by flirting online with other girls. I hate myself for it. I want to know if this new relationship is a rebound and if my desperate reactions over the course of three days will make it harder for me to win her back, if that is at all possible. Do you think she still loves me at all despite what I did to her? There is a good chance the new relationship is a rebound. Read this article to learn what can you do when you cheated. Hi Kevin I was with my ex for 5 years, we spilt up 3 years ago, we have stayed in constant contact with each other and became the best of friends.
I unfortunately moved on after a year of the break up, but still was friends with my ex. My ex hadn't moved on and made it clear he wanted me back. SO I decided I would take the plunge and finish with my current boyfriend to get back with my ex, unfortunately my ex was getting frustrated as it was taking so long, and sent me a shitty email.
I planned to meet up with his to discuss, but couldn't be for 3 weeks as i travel with work. I was in total shock and felt devastated, he could wait 3 years but not 3 weeks Now I am single, totally in love with me ex, but he now doesn't want me!
It"s possible that his new relationship is not a rebound and he has truly moved on. Maybe he was going out with that girl for a while and when you told him you want to get back together he decided to tell you that he has a new girlfriend. Unfortunately there is nothing much you can do right now except no contact and healing. If after a couple of months you still want him back, contact him. Me and my ex broke up 6 months already. I havent contact him since our break up i follow the NC until now I blocked him on facebook and intsagram.
But we have a group of friends. I heard that my ex's courting someone for about 2 months. I thought I moved on but I can feel the pain again. Our friends asked me if i still love him I reply them "Nope, Im done with him". But i realized that I still love him so much. What should i do? Please help me thank you in advance! Just make sure you don't look needy, desperate or depressed on your social media profiles. I greatly appreciate this post. It's exactly what I'm going through right now. So here's my story:. I just recently came from a breakup.
But I can't really be sure if it's a breakup since there was never actually an us. I mean, we were not officially together. We labeled ourselves as best friends. So this guy was a friend of mine years back when we were in 1st yr in college. He was just a typical friend of mine. We were friends for a year since I transferred school. Ever since I transferred, we never got to see and talk to each other anymore. That was in Came Nov , all of a sudden we started chatting. We haven't talked for 3 years since so we were really just excited talking to each other again.
Our friendship went back again and the longer we conversed, the deeper our connection got. We communicated through texts, calls and fb chat. Since then, we became officially best friends. We also got to hang out for us to see each other, which I think made us closer even more. This all happened from Nov to Jan Jan was the last time I saw him in person. Apparently, due to our closeness, we know we both had feelings for each other but the problem is that no one between us dared to open about it. I remember in Jan he asked me to hang out with him again.
So we went to see movies and went to a theme park. I remember days before he told me how he was longing to have a girlfriend. And I believe that there was a hidden message in it. Its like he's trying to tell me that he wants me to be his girlfriend.
Came Jan 19 when we went out, that's the time his interest in me was really obvious. He took a risk by holding my hand for the first time during the movie. When we went to the theme park, he hugged me on my waist from the back which I think is really really sweet and I miss that so bad. So the day ended and he dropped me off at a mall. Because of what happened throughout the day, I became really shy and speechless.
I just hugged him and thanked him for the time he spent with me. The next day, we texted as usual. The days after that became a little awkward. Since we were texting but none of us again dared to open up about the recent hangout. I didn't say anything because I was expecting him to talk about it first since he's the one who first showed interest in me. But unfortunately, he didn't talk about it. As more days pass, our communication were not constant anymore. We used to talk day and night through texts and fb chats.
But this time, we barely text each other until the day came when we did stop talking. I was so clueless as to why he stopped texting me like he used to. I know it was because things were going awkward between us. Since then, we didn't communicate anymore. Then came Feb 14 which is Valentine's Day. I was doing my school project and as soon as I opened my facebook, BAM! He got a new picture with his new girl captioned "Life Companion". Like everyone else, my hear shattered to pieces for the very first time. Since it was him I fell in love with the first time.
My head was filled with thoughts and questions, mixed with different emotions. I cried of course.
But after crying, I decided to message him instead. I told him that I was happy he met someone else, that he no longer needs to be sad since his longingness for a relationship has been fulfilled. I was also sorry that I didn't give that to him- that relationship he wanted from me. The reason for this is because that day I was just speechless of what happened but I was really happy deep inside. As a first timer, things like these happen. And I waited for him to speak up but we didn't talk about it. He actually replied, which just means we still remain as best friends. Since then we didn't communicate again until Mar On Mar 26 he suddenly messaged me, sharing his story regarding the issue he's been facing at the office and he asked how my week went.
I replied of course like a typical best friend. We got to chat again for like 5 mins. And then there it stopped again. Since Mar 26 until now, we still haven't communicated. I stalked his new girl's facebook twice. The first time I checked it, there were no posts so I assumed her profile must be private since were not facebook friends. Then the second time I checked, I saw an album full of pictures of both of them with their friends hanging out at the same theme park where we hung out months ago. They seem or look happy though. But I still don't know if he's really over me.
Our status as of now is that we're friends. I don't know if he still considers me to be his best friend though but whatever we're friends. But we don't anymore communicate like we used to. Is there by any chance this new relationship of his could be an example of a rebound? Is he really over me or has he moved on? Because in my case, I'm in the process of moving on. I'm trying to focus on other things but when I'm alone, I usually think of him and our happy moments-especially that day on Jan Oh I forgot, the last time we talked which was days ago, his last message was about telling me I should enjoy life and he sends goodluck to my studies since I'm about to graduate really soon.
He also mentioned that we haven't talked for a while. What could this mean? Does he still care about me? Is his new girl a rebound? He started to act weird and I saw texts that were inappropriate, he basically emotionally cheated on me. I ended it but still wanted him, tried getting him back, but he didn't want to. We still kept talking for a few weeks after and I confronted him about going to this concert with that grl he was talking to. We got into a fight and I ended it with lose my number.. Two weeks later he texts me this long thing about clearing up stuff, telling me he didn't cheat on me, and how he pursued a relationship with the grl he was talking to and blamed me on why we broke up and said he still wanted to be friends..
I just don't know what to say, or if its even worth it.. If it's been two months of no contact, you should contact him. If it doesn't work out, you'll know it's over and you will be able to move on. We broke up with my girlfriend about 8 months ago. Now everyone is on their on, with plenty of confused, hurt, and hard feelings to go around.
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My advise to you is to keep it that way. Your ex bf crossed a big line. And so did your best friend. So I recommend you just utilize an extended no contact period and allow for the chips to fall where they may, but keeping the focus on your own self recovery. This section will explore some of the most important steps to getting back with an ex who has a new girlfriend.
Admittedly you are at a bit of a disadvantage since he has moved on, or has he? Not contacting your ex and is new girl is a must. Not only should you have implemented the No Contact Rule but you need to stay strong. Especially if you came out of a relatively serious relationship. It may be entirely possible that your ex is not as comfortable in his new relationship as you may have thought. It happens all the time. This is one of the symptoms of what everyone likes to call a rebound relationship.
This leads us to our next step…. Rebound relationships are relationships that usually form right after a breakup. So, the odds are in your favor. Just make sure you keep your cool while he is dating his new girlfriend. It is entirely possible that the further away from a breakup that your ex boyfriend gets, the more nostalgic he will become about your relationship. Basically, instead of remembering all the bad things like fights, disagreements or whatever caused your breakup he will remember all the good things, particularly when he is constantly forced to compare you against the realities of his new girlfriend.
His notion that she would be so great for him, may likely not pan out, thereby increasing your value. This can definitely work in your favor. This is probably the most important truth and ex recovery strategy of them all. You should not be sitting idly by. You are going to be using this time to heal and striving to become the best version of YOU.
And you are going to see to it that you ex boyfriend notices all these wonderful changes. So too will his new girlfriend. So how do you win back your ex who is shacking up with another girl, someone of his supposed dreams? So you are going to employ some little jealousy traps and many other value building activities and tactics. It is not always easy to want someone back so badly and see them in another relationship with someone else. I put this section together to give you some advice on how to handle what you are feeling.
Sometimes men need to go out with someone new to realize just how good they had it with you. Here is a rundown on the kind of thoughts and questions many women have when dealing with an ex who has found him someone else. Here is what you may be thinking and why its OK. Just know that these kinds of relationships with a new lady often have a short fuse.
Give it at least 3 months before you draw any meaningful conclusions. Get busy with life. Appearances, particularly after a breakup, can be misleading. So give time a chance to unwind the truth of their relationship. What you want to do is have a plan to get yourself noticed by him in a positive way. He left you for a reason. Maybe he is not the right man for you. Perhaps you still want him back. I would caution you about remaining a real good friend if you want him again, because it will send him conflicting signals that he might still be able to be with you and have casual sex.
Its better to employ a strategy of No Contact and explore that angle first, before you opt to be just a friend. Your game plan should not change. Certainly, things might be somewhat more awkward, but there could be some positives you can take from this situation. Also, there may be times when you see them together at the work setting before or after work. You can use this opportunity to make a classy appearance, showcasing your wonderful, happy looking self.
That seems awful convenient for him. So how do you deal with being dumped for someone else, then he comes crawling back? Should you just take him back in, forgiving your ex for his foolishness? Of course, exactly what you do depends on your history and other circumstances, but I would caution you to move slowly.
If you have not had adequate time to deal with the pain and hurt of what he did to you, tell him you need time. And if you choose to restart the relationship, do so like you are dating for the first time. Do it in small steps. No sex on the first or second dates. He needs to demonstrate he regrets his decision. Try your best not to obsess over his situation and this new girl. Go out and have fun.
Basically, just ramp up your social life so you can focus on the most important thing, yourself. Sometimes women have a tendency to believe that their ex started dating someone new because of something that they did wrong or something that they could not provide. You are not a robot. This particular piece of advice probably should have gone higher on this page.
Sometimes a select group of women will want their ex boyfriend back, just because someone else has them. If you find that you are in this situation, be very careful about proceeding to get him back or ruining his efforts. You may need to go back and do some serious soul searching on whether or not you want him back for a legitimate reason. It is only human nature to want to compare yourself to the new hopefully temporary girlfriend. Are you better looking?
Do you have a better personality? Comparing yourself to the new girl is not productive. You only hurt yourself in the process and that is not going to help your cause at all. Just know that you have your own special qualities that no one can duplicate. So far this page has really been about personal things that you can do to get your ex back if he has a new squeeze. Now, I want you to realize that I laid this page out that way on purpose. The fact of the matter is that a certain amount of this is out of your control. I mean, if you have found a way to mind control someone please let me know because I could put that skill to good use!
However, in this section I am briefly going to discuss certain actions you can take to drastically improve your chances of getting your ex boyfriend back. Remember, these actions should only be taken after you have completed the 30 Day No Contact Rule. No one is perfect and this is especially true of relationships. Your job is to keep an eye out for his troubles with his new girl and be there to provide support and remind him how good he had it with you.
At the right time, test the waters with your ex boyfriend via text messaging. There are a whole set of rules and regulations that go with texting an ex. I am not going to go into those here but if you want to know them then please visit this page. If you are on good terms with your ex or you have tested the waters via text messages and gotten a positive response, be very wary about trashing his new girlfriend.
It may be tempting, but however strong that temptation is you are going to have to avoid it. Remember, you are becoming the Ungettable girl. When we started dating he has had a girlfriend for 2 years and he left her for me and told me that I was much better than her. Now I tried no contact period and during it he was always telling me how he wanted to be friends with me but I said I needed time. Our no contact period finished when we played spin the bottle in the dorm because we live together. Then he texted me first and we texted for like 10 days and he told how we should play it again.
On January 1st he stopped texting me like I have never existed and I discovered that he has bought a present for his ex and that he comments all of her posts. What should I do? I know it hurts when the guy your care about goes back and forth on what he seemingly wants.
I think you should consider implementing No Contact and utilize my Program see home page so you understand how the whole post breakup recovery process works. D refused my decision to stay with my new relationship. E and I were in touch periodically, and he was still very interested in a relationship and a future with me. Our relationship was great and we were very good together. However, not even a month before he was telling me he wanted a future with me and that getting back together was best for us.
He views all of my Snapchat stories and will strike up a conversation if I run into him at work. I miss him terribly, and want him back. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you so much! Take a look at some of my resources that can show you how to approach this. My ex and I broke up 3 months ago right before I left for a six-week trip. I tried not to focus on the heartbreak too much during my vacation, but once I returned in the beginning of November, everything came rushing back.
I found out he started dating someone else mid-November and is still currently seeing her. I am happy for you that you were able to use your alone time to see a bigger picture and appreciate other things in life. One can move on, with completely writing the other person out of their life. The future is always moving with different possibilities, so one never knows quite where it will lead. But doing those things that bring you fulfillment and moving forward with life is important.
I recently ended things with D to find that E is in a new relationship. I believe he still has strong feelings for me. Any ideas on what I can do? Hi Allison…your ex seems stuck in uncertainty. If you are following my Program you will be upping the ante on your value to make it even more difficult for him to look past you!
Would appreciate your advice. We live in same apartment complex. He was separated going through divorce when we met. Started out great we were together for 6 months. But divorce proceedings got stressful and we broke up after few attempts of trying. Been 5 months but he would try to contact me we talked in between.
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Felt he did try to reach out and said he does think about me. We recently were bumping into each other. I called to say we should meet clear the air. Well we spoke he said he has a gf now. But wedid talk about us. He said he does miss us how I could just pop to his as I lived in the same block and we would watch movies our shows. He did say our relationship was intense he loved me.
He complimented my hair said I looked good. But does still think of me. He did say he was hurt I put up a pic of a guy I dated 2 weeks after our break up. He even described the pic and the guy. He did say are you with that guy the bf? I lied said yes cuz I was jealousof his gf. Anyways so Chris do I still have a chance to get back? We are keeping in touch through text and he did say it was nice meeting me.
How can I get him back? I know he still loves me. It looks like you have been thru a lot. Just think little steps with the texting and work toward a causal meet up. Hey, So my ex had a new girlfriend 2 days after the break up and I was devestaded of course. One week after this he was at the airport and went to his home country over the holidays and asked me to come to the airport to give me my stuff back. He hugged me the whole time, cried, touched my hair and laughed with me.
Which made me hopes. After he went into the gate he wrote me that he wished he would have kissed me and that he already misses touching and seeing me. So his new girlfriend is also in Portugal and since then they are the overly happy couple. Posting pics and doing things he never did with me. In that time he contacted me 2 times. The first time I ignored him and he blocked me directly.
The second time I got weak but told him right after that I need time for myself and asked him to respect that. Everytime he wrote me, he posted happy pictures of them together after. What can i think of this. Do i still have a Chance? Im in NC at the moment. But hearing my friends tell me what he posted etc hurt me really bad because even if we had a relationship status he never posted pictures with me. Why is he doing all of this? Should I keep going or is it hopeless because they seem so happy. I am sorry this is a struggle for you. You need to be first focus on your emotional health.
Not sure why he is behaving like this. Could be lots of reasons. The silver lining is it gives you some insight into how he is as a person. I have a lot of great Podcasts and videos that can help you in the healing department. Check out my Private Facebook Support Group as well! He first broke up last April due to a huge fight days before the break up which went on for days and his friends interfered.
I found out that they have a groupchat where they were talking about me, badmouthing me and even introducing a girl to him. I got hurt and mad seeing this that I confronted him about it. I was totally devastated and was a complete mess. He said that he want to finish our relationship, he is no longer happy, he fell out of love and that he needed space. A lot of hurtful words were exchanged and I did all the mistakes possible. After a few days he agreed to continue our relationship but nothing changed because he remained close to communicating and fixing the problem with me so we argued a lot.
Come June he said that he really want to stop. We still talk and see each other after that. He was hot and cold with me but remained sweet and affectionate but distant. I was completely desperate and needy. I started limited contact August and continued with complete NC by September for 40 days. After NC by mid October, I tried to contact him and he was responding really positively. It was always me who initiated though.
There were times that our conversations leads to him sexting me. When we meet there were sexual advancements but no sex, I think it happened 2x. When I was sick he took care of me and I can still feel that I was still there, through his hugs and soft kisses. By 2nd week of November, he was still replying to my texts but when we need to meet because I need to get stuff from his house, he was cold and distant.
I was open to him about it but not in a desperate or needy way. After that he started ignoring me completely and it turned out that he was out of the country. I sent a couple of texts the day after but got no replies so I backed off and started NC again by the 3rd week of Nov. He started deleting and untagging our pictures together on social media. He told me that he is not seeing someone even though I already guessed that he is texting someone else. I still have a lot of stuff left at his house, is it a good idea to get it?
His sister is offering to get it for me, or should I just get it after NC? Is there a possibility that this is just a rebound even after 5 mos? Before doing NC he still kept on texting the other girl that was introduce to him by his friends and this new girl is still not in the picture by that time. The girl is 10 yrs younger than him and looks similar to me. A lot going on here…. I see that you have been thru a lot. Do you have a sensible ex recovery plan that you are following?
It would help so you can be assured you are making good strategic and tactical decisions. He told me he started to have feelings for someone at work and it broke me. We decided to work on things and told me he stopped contact with her at work. We lived together, were speaking about marriage and he was showing me rings, one month after that is when this all started with the losing feelings for me. Within the week of working on things I found out he was talking to another girl and was so distant with me. Within the 3 months we lived together while being broken up, first month we were still intimate and acted like a couple.
He then messaged me about nonessential things but I never replied. Longest we went without contact was 8 days. In 10 years we never broke up, our fights never lasted for then a few hours and they were silly little things. I hopeful…so you both have 10 years together and that is traction and should help you going forward. I agree more time and space apart is a pragmatic approach. These resources can help you understand this whole process of potentially re-attracting your ex and also help you in the healing department. Keep working in that direction. So my boyfriend and father to my child dumped me for another girl.
I am pregnant with my second our second child. However I would give anything to figure this thing out and go the distance. I love the man he could be. Hes acting like hes having the time of his life. So I get his age is a factor. Very sorry for what has happened to you. Its upsetting to me that men behave this way. I think NC is the right medicine for you.
Consult my home page of this site for resources and tools. I was in a LDR,I found out my boyfriend has a live in partner but he said he will fix things I just need to be patient. Not even an explanation or closure. He has two accounts btw. The girl just deleted the one where he can communicate with me. But the guy added me already before on his main account. Although it hurts me because they have pictures there together the guy always tells me I have nothing to worry about because the pictures are from years ago.
He no longer updates it. I thought he really chose me but what happened? Last I heard the girl kicked him out of their house. Go to my home page and tap into the articles and tools and books there as they can help you figure out how to deal with your ex. Me 28 and my ex 27 we met at work.